EXPECTATIONS

"More than 90% of our problems are caused by EXPECTATIONS"

Life always rolls on expectations. Creating expectation is an attribute of Mind. Nothing wrong in wishing a thing to happen. Expectation is a phenomenon that develops beyond wishing.   

Let us say, you urgently need some money. You decide to ask your close ally this favor. When this idea of asking your friend flashed in your Mind, the very moment, an expectation develops. This expectation grows so rapidly that you become so sure that your friend would give you what you needed. Remember, you have not told your friend about your need, neither your friend had not known anything about this. But your Mind creates a cinemascope of surety from your friend. 

The next morning, you go and ask for your friend's help, but he is not in a position to give you. He has some other commitments. What happens?

You feel deeply disappointed. Your friend may be having genuine reason for not giving you, but you become angry with your friend. You feel anguished that your friend has betrayed you.You express your anger followed by exchange of harshness and friendship goes to grave. 

This typical situation has happened in many people's lives I know. If you deeply analyze what happens behind the screen, you can understand that your own Mind is the betrayer and not your friend. Your Mind created an expectation and fooled you to believe that. You followed your Mind and paid the penalty of friendship. Your friend is no way connected with this. He just was not in a position to give and that was the fact. But the Mind did not allow you to digest the fact. Okay, the friendship was over. But did your Mind leave you to be peaceful. It acts like a Video disc player and portrays the scenes of exchange of words between you and your friend, drowning you in more miserable moments. Alas! What a culprit is the Mind!

Behind all wars, there is EXPECTATION, if you carefully analyze. Behind all broken relationships, there is EXPECTATION, without doubt. Behind all sorrows and sufferings, there is EXPECTATION in one form or the other. Behind all suicides, there is EXPECTATION. So what is the solution? Can't we lead a happy life? Can't we be free from sufferings?         

Bhagvat Gita and all religious books have clearly stated that "Everyone should try to be free from expectations to avoid suffering". Is this possible in today's life? How far we can, in the present scenario of life? 

Please always realize this:   


1. You have come to earth to do your duty
2. Happiness and sorrow are two sides of a coin. If you wish to get the coin, you will have both.
3. Your deeds are like the coin, you get both out of that.
4. If you donate the coin to a temple, you are free from both.
5. Likewise, if you mentally surrender all your deeds to the omnipresent power, you are free.
6. For a meaningful life, you should go beyond happiness and sorrow.
7. So, accept everything good or bad, expect nothing. You will surely get what is destined to you.
8. The value for your work is more in the country of GOD, than what you expect in YOUR MATERIAL WORLD. So stop expecting, you ll get more rewards sooner or later.


So, the only way to attain REAL FREEDOM is to understand how your Mind works.  

SOURCE OF SUFFERING

" The SOURCE OF SUFFERING for all dwells within ONESELF"

No doubt this is the supreme ancient discovery. This is being told right from the Vedic era. Lord Buddha had insisted this in all his teachings. Lord Jesus had reiterated this fact. So many Gurus, Rishis, Philosophers have been repeating the same thing.   

But suffering has become inevitable phenomenon of every life. Then how to deal with it? Every individual wishes that he should be free from suffering and does so many things to overcome that. I have heard many people say "This is material world and those who lack in money will suffer". But I don't think all the people who possess abundant wealth are free from suffering. In my experience, I have a big list of people who are materially wealthy but survive only on tablets of all colors. If you ask them, "Are you free from suffering?" , the answer is pretty obvious and no bonanza for guessing.

Then what else we do? One thing to be understood clearly. Suffering is just a state of Mind. There is no guarantee that all the people who are very successful in career and amassed huge wealth have a state of Mind that is free from suffering. Mind has many dimensions. They have utilized one dimension and have achieved great material successes. They spend their money on many things and try to get rid of the suffering. But, the right way to get rid of the suffering is to counter the source of suffering and deal with it, which needs an inward journey. 

If a rat lies dead in your home emanating the foul smell, and you try to get rid of the smell by applying a rose flavored refresher, will it be the solution? You need to tap the source of the foul smell, clear the dead rat and you get relief. 

Similarly, the source of suffering is in your Mind. One need to do internal workouts. There is no necessity to fight a great battle with your Mind and suppress the thoughts of suffering, for,  you are not going to win that way. Just change the way you think and everything changes automatically. Make your thoughts always positive and try to find advantage in adversity. Sure, there will be, if you try to find them. Once, thinking positive becomes your habit, it creates a profound positive change in your attitude that will reflect in your character and you becoming a lightening personality. 

A stage will come, when you traverse both positive and negative thoughts and be "That", but for now, let us re-engineer our thought process, develop positive thoughts and overcome our sufferings. 

 

FEAR

"Fear of a problem is much disastrous that the problem itself" 

The Human Mind carries the imprints gained based on various experiences from the childhood, various books read, imprints created by the teachings and advices of parents, teachers, friends, elders  and so on. 

These imprints form major part of the memory and create perceptions. Fear is a kind of perception. Fear creates a virtual situation of you becoming pathetic of a forthcoming problem. Moreover, it makes you believe that what it has created is going to happen. 

We can come across many instances of people committing suicide, people running away, people becoming maniac etc. All are the resultant of the virtual video shown by Fear. 

When you encounter with Fear, say to yourself "The reality will be much better than what it is feared to be". These words will give you enough strength to face the reality and you will be surprised to see that all big problems vanish just like that. 

Fear Not, and prepare yourself to face the reality. God is so kind to all his children.

Aagnya: FAITH AND CONFIDENCE

Aagnya: FAITH AND CONFIDENCE: "'Have CONFIDENCE that : 1. I can handle any tough situation 2. I can handle any stress 3. I will emerge out successfully Then FAITH in y..."

FAITH AND CONFIDENCE

"Have CONFIDENCE that :

 1. I can handle any tough situation

 2. I can handle any stress

 3. I will emerge out successfully 

 Then FAITH in yourself bloom within you"

 All ancient philosophies, religion and modern psychology synchronize in one fact. "You are what you think and you become what you think". 

 Thinking being the aspect of Mind, the thoughts are the resultant of the stature of the Mind. So it is very essential that Mind workout is as important as the body workout. 

 By repeating these words daily you gain the Mental strength to be balanced in tough times, easily workout strategies for the way out and overcome successfully.

   

 Speaking about Faith and Confidence, Confidence gives you energy to ride through tough times and Faith actualizes a life what you wish for. So is very vital that you develop confidence by repeated Mental workouts and gain Faith to achieve all your dreams.

ORIGINALITY

"The moment you release yourself from RIGIDITY, the very moment you return to your ORIGINALITY"


Each and every creation in this world is nothing but the great manifestation of the supreme power. So the inherent nature of all creations is the nature of the omnipresent primordial power. But all the creations are covered with invisible sheaths that hides the true being. These sheaths are collectively termed as "Maya". 


But the Divine presence can be seen everywhere, if you observe the nature... in the morning sun, in the waves of the ocean, in the song of the cuckoo, in the color of the rainbow, in the wings of the butterfly, in the fragrance of the flowers, in the autumn breeze, in the dew drops in the morning grass, in snow-cladded mountains, in the moonlight reflection in placid waters... oh! the list is endless. But everything in this Universe has HIS Signature. What a mother and a father does for creating a child is just a facilitation process but it is the amazing work of the Great invisible Architect to design the child. Is it not surprising to see the little parakeet inherit the colors? We can write volumes and one life is not enough to display the proofs of the existence of the Supreme Guiding Force. 

If one cuts away the sheaths covering, getting freedom from the 'Rigidity' of the external world, then he shall discover his 'Originality' - the Divine Being